I want to make something perfectly clear, and I am going to be blunt and brutally honest and if you’re one of the people who falls into this category… if you are a parent who has or would have a problem with your child, who it is your job to love unconditionally, being LGBTQA+, then it’s probably going to hurt reading it. And you know what, people like you have hurt me beyond belief, caused me more pain than any person should ever have to feel, so I don’t care if my words hurt you because the fact is you need to hear them… or read them in this particular case, and harsh as it may be I think it’s time those who keep doing the hurting start to feel a little sting too and I think you can live with because I promise you my words won’t hurt even a tiny fraction of how much bigots have hurt me.
If you do not accept and support your LGBTQA+ child as they are, if you do not love them unconditionally as they are, then YOU ARE A FAILURE AS A PARENT, Period; no ifs, ands, or buts. You either accept and support your child and love them unconditionally or you fail as a parent and that’s that. If you are not prepared to love and support and accept your child as they are, regardless of how your religious beliefs may tell you to feel about their orientation… regardless of how a book the condones rape, slavery, and murder suggests you should feel about their orientation, then you have no business and no right to be a parent. You revoke that privilege the moment you make the choice not fulfill the simplest and most basic of tasks a parent is to perform. THAT IS YOUR CHILD! You don’t kick them out or beat them down or try to change them, especially by forcing them into conversion therapy that has been proved time and time again not to work (unless you count faking it or driving a person to the point of suicide as working… which if you do, then I urge you to please seek professional help because that is well beyond fucked up).
I can understand needing time to process. That’s fine. Then you calmly take your time to process and then you fucking hug YOUR CHILD and tell them you love them. You offer to be somebody they can come to and talk to. You be there for them and let them know that they are not alone. I don’t care if you don’t like that they are LGBTQA+. You put your dislike for their orientation aside and fucking love them because they are YOUR FUCKING CHILD.
It’s a simple concept. It’s not hard. If it’s that hard for you than I’d really like to know why you had kids in the first place, because you had no business bringing a human being into this world just so you could cut them down or shove them away because you don’t like something about them. It’s not your friend or coworker coming to you and confiding in you about a piece of them that they have probably spent a lot of fucking time struggling with already as it is. IT IS YOUR FUCKING CHILD coming to you. Simple. Don’t get it? Don’t want to do it? Then do the world a fucking favor and either abstain or use protection because parents like you are doing NOTHING to make this world a better place. You’re making a worse place than it already is. This world is already broken. Don’t contribute to breaking it more.
And remember folks. Those of us in this community are not hurting anyone by loving another consenting individual of the same gender. We aren’t hurting anyone by being our truest selves, by following what our hearts and bodies tell us. It has no impact on you whatsoever. You, however, are killing people with your hate and willful ignorance. How many more people have to kill themselves before you wake the fuck up? How many people have to be left dead or dying in the streets because one of you took your hate too far? We are supposed to be loving, feeling, compassionate, and empathetic human fucking beings. Those of you who are religious are supposed to live your lives striving to be like Jesus, who befriended and loved even the worst sinners, but you are all acting more like the devil and by spreading hate and ignorance you are committing one of the worst sins of all. Remember that you are not a perfect, sinless, saint either and therefore have no right to go casting stones. You better start taking a look in the mirror before you start telling other people, including your children, how to live and who to love. Otherwise, and again I’m going to be blunt because you’ve all hurt me enough to destroy my filter, sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up until you can learn how to be a decent fucking human being and read your whole damn beloved book instead of just the verses you misunderstand and think you can use to put people down. God’s word was never intended to be used as a tool for hate, and if you think it’s acceptable to use it as such as far too many of you do, then it is you who has allowed the devil to take possession of you and it is you who will suffer an eternity of torment because of it.
Next time you feel the need to judge, or put people down, or spew hate and willful ignorance especially using your faith as an excuse, I urge you to remember these verses:
“He straightened up and said to them, “Whoever is without sin among you, let him be the first to cast a stone at her.” –John 8:7
“Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.” –Matthew 7:1-2
“The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” –Mark 12:31